When you understand the pattern but still feel caught inside it.
Therapy intensives create more time and space to work deeply with trauma, betrayal, attachment injuries, intimacy, and relationship patterns that may be difficult to address within the limits of a weekly session.
This isn't about pushing harder or trying to heal faster. It's about creating a larger, carefully paced container for the work that needs more room.
Individual + Couples Intensives
Virtual in California + Oregon
You may have already done a lot of work on yourself.
You understand your patterns.
You know where some of them came from.
You may have already spent years in therapy, building insight, learning new ways to cope, and becoming more aware of what happens inside you.
And something still doesn’t feel resolved.
Your body still reacts.
You may know that something is over and still feel your nervous system respond as though it is happening now.
Trust feels harder.
Betrayal or relational trauma may have changed your ability to trust what you see, feel, remember, or know.
You can see the pattern and still get pulled into it.
Understanding a relationship cycle does not always make it easier to step outside of it when attachment, fear, or old protective responses take over.
You know what’s happening. It still happens inside you.
Sometimes therapy has helped you understand the pattern intellectually, but something deeper still needs time, attention, and a different kind of space to work through it.
Sometimes insight arrives before the rest of us has had the chance to catch up.
WHY AN INTENSIVE?
More time changes the container, not the pace you’re expected to move at.
A therapy intensive creates a larger, intentionally structured space around a specific area of your life or history that needs more attention.
It isn’t about trying to accomplish as much therapy as possible in a few hours. It’s about having enough time to work thoughtfully without constantly needing to stop because the session is ending.
01 — Stay with the thread
Sometimes the most meaningful part of a therapy session emerges just as it is time to begin wrapping up.
An intensive gives us more room to stay with an important thread rather than repeatedly opening it, closing it, and trying to find our way back to it the following week.
02 — Work at your system’s pace
More time does not mean more pressure.
We may use that time to slow down, build resources, understand protective responses, regulate, pause, change direction, or decide that something is not ready to be processed yet.
The amount of time available never determines how quickly you are expected to move.
03 — Leave room for integration
Meaningful therapy is not only about what we uncover or process.
We also need time to understand what shifted, notice what your system needs, ground before leaving the work, and consider how what happened in the room connects to the rest of your life.
The goal isn’t to fit more therapy into a few hours.
It’s to give meaningful work enough room to unfold.
AREAS OF FOCUS
Some experiences need more than insight. They need enough space to be worked through.
Intensive therapy can be especially helpful when there is a specific part of your story, relationship, or nervous system that continues to ask for attention.
My work often sits at the intersection of trauma, attachment, betrayal, intimacy, and relationships.
Complex + Relational Trauma
Not all trauma comes from one identifiable event.
Sometimes what remains is the accumulation of chronic emotional unsafety, attachment injuries, invalidation, relational trauma, or experiences that shaped how you learned to protect yourself.
Intensive work allows us to focus on a meaningful part of that history without treating your entire life as something that needs to be fixed.
Attachment + Relationship Injuries
Some relational injuries happen in a single moment. Others build quietly over time.
We may focus on a specific rupture, recurring relationship cycle, fear of abandonment or engulfment, difficulty repairing after conflict, or protective strategies that once helped you survive but now make closeness more difficult.
The goal is not to eliminate protection. It is to understand what it has been trying to do for you and whether something different is possible now.
Betrayal Trauma
Infidelity, secrecy, compulsive sexual behavior, deception, or another significant betrayal can affect far more than trust.
You may find yourself replaying what happened, questioning your own perception, feeling hypervigilant, struggling with emotional flooding, or unsure how to feel safe in the relationship or in yourself.
The work may involve processing what happened while also rebuilding a greater sense of internal safety, clarity, and self-trust.
Intimacy + Sexual Disconnection
Intimacy concerns are rarely only about sex.
They can involve attachment, vulnerability, shame, desire, avoidance, trauma, power, self-protection, fear of dependence, or fear of being fully known.
Rather than focusing only on changing behavior, we look at what the pattern means, what it may be protecting, and what would need to feel different for greater connection to become possible.
Sometimes the treatment target is harder to name.
“I understand why I feel this way. I just don’t know how to stop feeling this way.”
That is enough of a place to begin.
WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER
Different kinds of work need different kinds of space.
Some people come to an intensive with a very specific treatment target. Others know that something feels stuck but are not yet sure what kind of structure would be most helpful.
We can determine together what makes the most clinical sense.
Individual Intensives
For focused work around trauma, betrayal, attachment injuries, intimacy, relational patterns, or another area that continues to feel unresolved.
Individual intensives may include assessment, preparation, extended therapeutic work, and integration based on your goals, history, and current capacity.
Packages begin at $1,500
Couples Intensives
For couples who need more uninterrupted space to understand a recurring cycle, address a significant rupture, work with betrayal or attachment injuries, explore intimacy concerns, or clarify what meaningful repair would require.
Couples intensives are carefully assessed beforehand to determine whether conjoint intensive work is the most appropriate next step.
Packages begin at $2,500
Adjunctive Intensives
Already working with a therapist you value?
You may not need to leave them.
Adjunctive intensive therapy allows us to work together temporarily around a clearly defined treatment target while your primary therapist continues providing your ongoing care.
With your written authorization, I can collaborate with your therapist so the intensive fits thoughtfully within your larger treatment plan.
Customized based on treatment needs
Not sure which option fits?
You do not need to arrive with the perfect treatment plan.
We can start with what feels unresolved, painful, repetitive, or stuck and determine whether an intensive and which kind is likely to be helpful.
BETRAYAL TRAUMA
Betrayal can make you question more than the relationship.
Infidelity, sexual secrecy, compulsive sexual behavior, deception, or another significant relational betrayal can disrupt your sense of safety, trust, and reality.
You may find yourself replaying conversations, searching for missing information, checking for inconsistencies, feeling pulled toward your partner one moment and desperate for distance the next.
You may question your judgment.
Your memories.
Your body.
What you believed about the relationship.
Sometimes even what you believed about yourself.
These responses are not simply about deciding whether to stay or leave. Betrayal can affect the nervous system, attachment system, sense of identity, sexual safety, and ability to trust your own perception.
The goal is not to rush you toward certainty.
I do not believe betrayal treatment should pressure you toward forgiveness, reconciliation, separation, or a decision before you are ready to make one.
Sometimes the first work is more foundational.
Rebuilding trust in your own perception.
Understanding what happened to your nervous system.
Creating enough stability to think clearly.
Processing a specific discovery or relational injury.
Identifying what safety, accountability, and repair would actually require.
And beginning to separate what you truly want from what fear, panic, or pressure may be asking you to do.
You do not have to know what happens to the relationship before you begin healing from what happened inside of it.
HOW I WORK
The treatment plan is built around you, not around a modality.
I work integratively because people are complex, and meaningful therapy rarely follows a perfectly linear path.
Sometimes we need to understand how a present-day reaction connects to something that happened earlier.
Sometimes we need to slow down and notice what is happening in your body before trying to make sense of it.
Sometimes a protective part of you needs to be understood before it is ready to loosen its grip.
Sometimes the work happens in the relationship between us noticing what emerges when you feel seen, misunderstood, vulnerable, close, afraid, or uncertain.
Sometimes a structured skill or practical intervention is exactly what is needed.
And sometimes the most clinically responsible thing we can do is decide that something does not need to be processed yet.
APPROACHES I MAY DRAW FROM
EMDR
Somatic + Nervous-System-Informed Approaches
Attachment-Focused Therapy
Parts-Informed Work
Relational Psychotherapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Gottman-Informed Couples Work
CBT + DBT When Useful
Depth does not require force.
The approach we use depends on your history, your goals, your current capacity, what has and has not helped before, and what emerges as we work together.
The modality is never the destination.
The goal is to understand what your system is doing, why it makes sense, and what might help something new become possible.
WHAT THE PROCESS LOOKS LIKE
Thoughtful work starts before the intensive itself.
An intensive is not simply a longer appointment placed on the calendar.
We take time to understand what is bringing you in, determine whether intensive work is clinically appropriate, prepare intentionally, and make space afterward for integration.
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Consultation
We begin with what is bringing you here.
You do not need to know which modality you need or arrive with the perfect treatment target already identified.
We’ll talk about what feels painful, unresolved, repetitive, or stuck and determine whether an intensive is likely to be an appropriate next step.
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The Intensive
This is our protected time for focused therapeutic work.
Depending on what we are addressing, the intensive may include trauma processing, EMDR, relational work, somatic tracking, attachment-focused interventions, parts-informed work, experiential exercises, or other approaches that fit your treatment needs.
We can pause.
We can slow down.
We can change direction.
Having more time never means you are expected to use all of it for processing.
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Assessment + Preparation
Before moving into deeper work, I want to understand enough about you to work responsibly.
We’ll explore relevant history, current supports, previous treatment, your goals, what helps you feel grounded, what tends to overwhelm your system, and anything else that may affect how we approach the work.
We may also build additional resources and clarify a more specific focus for the intensive.
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Integration
We leave room to understand what happened and what comes next.
What shifted?
What still feels unfinished?
What does your system need now?
What would be most supportive moving forward?
Next steps may include returning to your ongoing therapist, continuing therapy, additional intensive work at a later point, couples work, specific practices between sessions, or simply giving yourself time to integrate what emerged.
You do not have to force a breakthrough for an intensive to be meaningful.
Sometimes the most important shift is leaving with greater clarity, more internal space, or a different relationship to something that once felt impossible to move around.
ADJUNCTIVE INTENSIVE THERAPY
Already have a therapist you trust? You may not need to leave them.
A strong therapeutic relationship can be an important part of your healing, and intensive work does not have to replace the therapist who already knows you well.
Sometimes it makes more sense for us to work together temporarily around a clearly defined treatment target while your primary therapist continues providing the ongoing care, context, and continuity of your therapy.
This may be especially helpful when you are looking for focused work around trauma, EMDR, betrayal, attachment injuries, intimacy, or another area that could benefit from a more concentrated therapeutic format.
With your written authorization, I can collaborate with your therapist before and after the intensive so that the work fits thoughtfully within your larger treatment plan.
Your existing therapy remains the foundation. The intensive simply creates additional space for a specific piece of the work.
FOR THERAPISTS
Considering an intensive for a client?
I welcome collaborative referrals when a client may benefit from focused adjunctive work while remaining connected to their primary therapist.
When clinically appropriate and authorized by the client, I can coordinate around the treatment target, relevant history and stabilization needs, the scope of the intensive, and recommendations for integration afterward.
My goal is not to take over treatment, but to support the work you are already doing together.
Your existing therapy remains the foundation. The intensive simply creates additional space for a specific piece of the work.
An intensive may be a good fit if…
You’ve already done meaningful therapy, but there is a particular issue or experience that still feels unfinished.
You understand a pattern and can often recognize it while it’s happening, but insight alone hasn’t been enough to change how you feel or respond.
There is a specific trauma, betrayal, attachment injury, relationship rupture, or intimacy concern that you want more time to work through.
You often feel like you are just getting somewhere important when a regular therapy session needs to end.
You want focused work around a particular issue without necessarily committing to another long-term weekly therapy relationship.
You already have a therapist you trust and are looking for specialized work that can complement the therapy you are doing with them.
You feel stable enough in your day-to-day life to spend more focused time on difficult material and have support available to you outside of our sessions.
Something else may need to come first if…
You are currently in a crisis and need more immediate or ongoing support than an intensive can provide.
There are concerns about your immediate safety that would be better addressed through crisis support, a higher level of care, or a more consistent treatment structure.
It is currently very difficult to stay present or grounded when painful material comes up, and more preparation would help the work feel safer and more manageable.
There are other concerns that need attention before it would make sense to focus more deeply on trauma or relationship wounds.
You need a level of support, monitoring, or continuity that an intensive is not designed to provide.
Sometimes the most useful thing we can do is slow the process down, build more support, or choose a different kind of treatment before returning to deeper work.
The goal is not to convince you to do an intensive.
The goal is to figure out what would actually be helpful.
If I don’t think an intensive is the right next step, I’ll tell you. We can talk about what may make more sense instead.
COUPLES INTENSIVES
More time together only helps when the work is ready for it.
Couples intensives can create valuable space to slow down a painful cycle, work through a significant rupture, understand what keeps happening between you, or have conversations that are difficult to fit into a traditional session.
But a longer session is not automatically better just because a relationship is hurting.
Before recommending an intensive, I want to understand what is happening between you and whether working together in this format is likely to be helpful.
I may consider things like current emotional and physical safety, each partner’s ability to stay engaged in difficult conversations, trauma responses, patterns of escalation or withdrawal, unresolved betrayal, and whether there are individual concerns that need attention first.
Sometimes the best next step is not more couples therapy.
There are times when one or both partners may benefit from individual support, stabilization, trauma work, clearer boundaries, or other treatment before trying to work more deeply on the relationship together.
If betrayal is part of the picture, we may also need to slow down and look at what each person needs before asking the relationship to hold more difficult conversations.
I am not approaching couples work with the assumption that staying together is always the goal.
The work may be about repair.
It may be about understanding whether repair is possible.
It may be about creating more honesty and clarity.
And sometimes it may be about helping two people make thoughtful decisions about what comes next.
The goal is not to keep the relationship together at any cost.
The goal is to create enough safety, honesty, and understanding for something more genuine to become possible.
INVESTMENT
You should know what you’re committing to before you decide.
Therapy intensives are private-pay services. The structure I recommend will depend on what you are coming in to work on, how much preparation is needed, and whether we are working individually or as a couple.
Before you book an intensive, we will talk through the recommended structure, what is included, and the full cost so you can decide whether it feels right for you.
Individual Intensives
Starting at $1,500
Focused intensive work for trauma, betrayal, attachment injuries, intimacy concerns, or another area that continues to feel unresolved.
Your package may include assessment, preparation, extended therapy, and integration based on the focus of our work.
Couples Intensives
Starting at $2,500
For couples who need more time to work through a significant rupture, recurring cycle, betrayal, attachment injury, intimacy concern, or questions about what repair may require.
The structure is tailored to the needs of the relationship and may include individual assessment, preparation, extended conjoint work, and integration.
Customized + Multi-Day Intensives
Custom Pricing
Some treatment goals need more than a single extended session.
When a customized or multi-day format makes more sense, we will build the structure together and you will know the full cost before deciding whether to move forward.
Insurance
Intensives are private pay and I do not bill insurance directly for these services.
Depending on your plan and the services provided, you may be able to submit documentation for possible out-of-network reimbursement. Reimbursement is determined by your insurance plan and cannot be guaranteed.
There should be no surprises about cost.
You will know what I am recommending, why I am recommending it, and what it will cost before you decide to move forward.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
A few things you may be wondering before you reach out.
You do not need to have everything figured out before contacting me. These are some of the questions that tend to come up when people are considering intensive therapy.
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No.
If you already have a therapist you trust, an intensive can often be used alongside the work you are already doing.
With your written permission, I can coordinate with your therapist before and after our work together so there is continuity between the intensive and your ongoing therapy.
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No.
You may know exactly what feels unfinished, or you may only know that something keeps coming up and you want to understand it differently.
Part of the assessment and preparation process is helping us identify what would be useful to focus on, and whether an intensive is the right way to approach it.
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There is not one standard format.
Some people benefit from a focused extended session. Other concerns are better approached through several meetings that include preparation, intensive work, and integration.
We will decide on the structure before you commit to the intensive.
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Not necessarily.
Therapy does not follow a predictable timeline, and I would never want the length of a session to create pressure to have a breakthrough.
The benefit of an intensive is having more uninterrupted time for the work not forcing the work to happen more quickly.
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No.
The additional time changes how we are able to structure the work.
There is more room for preparation, slowing down, following something important when it emerges, taking breaks, regulating, processing when appropriate, and making sure there is time to integrate before we finish.
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We may.
EMDR can be a powerful part of intensive therapy when it fits the treatment goal and you are adequately prepared for it.
It is one of several approaches I may draw from, and booking an intensive does not mean we will automatically begin trauma processing.
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Yes.
I provide virtual psychotherapy and intensive services for clients who are physically located in California or Oregon at the time of our sessions.
We will also talk beforehand about whether a virtual intensive is an appropriate fit for the kind of work you are hoping to do.
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Sometimes.
Betrayal can create a strong desire to get answers, repair the relationship, or figure out what happens next as quickly as possible. More couples therapy is not always the best first step.
Before recommending a couples intensive, I will want to understand what has happened, what each partner currently needs, and whether working together in an extended format is likely to be helpful.
There may be times when individual support or other work needs to happen first.
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Intensives are private pay, and I do not bill insurance directly for these services.
Depending on your insurance plan and the services provided, you may be able to submit documentation for possible out-of-network reimbursement.
Reimbursement is determined by your insurance company and cannot be guaranteed.
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We will talk about this together before we finish.
You may return to your regular therapist, continue working with me when appropriate, take time to integrate, schedule another intensive later, begin couples work, or decide that a different kind of support would be useful.
The intensive does not need to answer every question or resolve everything.
Sometimes it helps move one important piece of the work far enough that you can approach what comes next differently.
READY WHEN YOU ARE
You don’t have to know exactly what kind of therapy you need.
You may only know that something still hurts.
That a pattern keeps repeating even though you understand it.
That something happened in your relationship and you haven’t felt quite the same since.
Or that there is a part of your story you are ready to give more time and attention to.
You do not need to arrive with the perfect treatment goal or know which approach will help.
We can start with what feels stuck and figure out the rest together.
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Individual + Couples Therapy Intensives
Virtual throughout California + Oregon